One common question has been; "So has it set in yet that he is YOURS?"
The answer: Yes, but it took some time and was different for each of us.
With the adoption itself being a process, and not a single event in time, there was not one specific point where we were really able to take it all in. There was of course the birth, but at that time, we knew we still had 48 hours until it was official.
Then there was the moment the papers were signed, but even then we had to face the reality that the same moment that was perhaps the greatest of our lives, was equally as hard for someone else.
Even driving home from the hospital, we were so happy just to be out of the hospital could only focus on getting home.
For M, the moment when it set in was sometime on Sunday. She took Little B and was carrying him around the house in a sling that a friend of ours made for her. Having her son cuddled up next to her, his big blue eyes staring into hers as they welled up with tears, was something that she had dreamt about for a long time. This was her moment.
For me, it came late Sunday night. As a former school teacher, I have read hundreds of children's books to classrooms full of kids. Over the years, I dreamt of one day being to read one of those books to my child. So Sunday night, I took Little B into the nursery, took The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein off the bookshelf and began reading. I have to be honest, I had a tough time finishing the book. This was my moment.
Thinking back on these moments, I can't help but smile, knowing that there are hundreds more moments just like these to come.
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